The
list of best things is sadly more difficult to compile. Follow these
guidelines and you'll become the elusive man she's longing for: the man
with a well-trained tongue.
It's okay to go slow: Say it and mean it. Especially when you're first rubbing skin with a new woman and it's not yet clear whether you'll actually have sex tonight. Or when you're first getting back together with an ex. Or when you're about to have sex with her for the first time since she gave birth. It builds trust and reassures a woman that you care more about her than about the sex. Also, it often leads to the reverse-psychology phenomenon: She'll want to jump you by the time you finish the sentence.
That freckle is beautiful: Compliments are always good. Except when they're generic. Then she thinks you've said the same thing to 47 other women. Focus on unique details, the way her lips curl or her eyes crinkle. The more special you make her feel, the more aroused she gets. She wants to hear words that imply she's attractive, appreciated, loved or at least liked. Compliments after sex are good, too.
You: Say it often. "You" is the hottest word you can say to a woman in bed. "You make me feel so good" instead of "That feels so good." Subtle modification, but big difference in sentiment. "You' is sexy because you're referring to her as opposed to the act of sex," says Daylle Deanna Schwartz, a psychotherapist and author of How to Please a Woman in and out of Bed. "It's very personal, and women love that."
You kiss great for a virgin: A woman needs feedback to know she's turning you on. "Oh, yeah. You feel so good. Even grunting indicates you really liked it when she grabbed your ass, but didn't care for the sucking of toes. Need inspiration to get vocal? "Women are much more likely to give longer and more enthusiastic oral sex when men give them a response," says Schwartz. When you drift into radio silence, she starts wondering, "Is this doing anything for him? Should I stop? Does my face look fat?" All that thinking keeps her from concentrating.
It's okay to go slow: Say it and mean it. Especially when you're first rubbing skin with a new woman and it's not yet clear whether you'll actually have sex tonight. Or when you're first getting back together with an ex. Or when you're about to have sex with her for the first time since she gave birth. It builds trust and reassures a woman that you care more about her than about the sex. Also, it often leads to the reverse-psychology phenomenon: She'll want to jump you by the time you finish the sentence.
That freckle is beautiful: Compliments are always good. Except when they're generic. Then she thinks you've said the same thing to 47 other women. Focus on unique details, the way her lips curl or her eyes crinkle. The more special you make her feel, the more aroused she gets. She wants to hear words that imply she's attractive, appreciated, loved or at least liked. Compliments after sex are good, too.
You: Say it often. "You" is the hottest word you can say to a woman in bed. "You make me feel so good" instead of "That feels so good." Subtle modification, but big difference in sentiment. "You' is sexy because you're referring to her as opposed to the act of sex," says Daylle Deanna Schwartz, a psychotherapist and author of How to Please a Woman in and out of Bed. "It's very personal, and women love that."
You kiss great for a virgin: A woman needs feedback to know she's turning you on. "Oh, yeah. You feel so good. Even grunting indicates you really liked it when she grabbed your ass, but didn't care for the sucking of toes. Need inspiration to get vocal? "Women are much more likely to give longer and more enthusiastic oral sex when men give them a response," says Schwartz. When you drift into radio silence, she starts wondering, "Is this doing anything for him? Should I stop? Does my face look fat?" All that thinking keeps her from concentrating.